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The Cowboys Won, but the Kansas City Chiefs Should Be Commended

English: Matt Cassel, a player on the Kansas C...

English: Matt Cassel, a player on the Kansas City Chiefs American football team. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)


Yes, I am sooo happy the Dallas Cowboys swept the Philadelphia Eagles 38-33, but the surprise story yesterday was the Kansas City Chiefs‘ actions. While the circumstances of Jovan Belcher‘s murder/suicide remain a mystery, one thing that was clear was that his girlfriend, Kassandra Perkins.

We could say like the Slate article that since the NFL has a domestic violence problem because of so many violent men, that the Chiefs recognizing victims of domestic violence was nothing more than an empty gesture. I don’t take such a cynical view of the world. I don’t that it’s just professional American football players who have a domestic violence problem, since such a view make it an “us-versus-them” problem when in reality, it is OUR problem. The fact is that anti-domestic violence campaigns (if we exclude the Temperance movement for just a second) are relatively young from the early 1970s on. In some states, there are moves to weaken anti-domestic violence laws today, like in Kansas. I think in light of the reactionary politics going on in its neighboring state, Missouri‘s best pro football team did the right thing and is a step in the right direction.

Edit: Addition: May we remember the victims of domestic violence in spite of the monetary success, race, or prowess of the perpetrators.Please read Crunk Feminist Collective: Remember Their Names: In Memory of Kasandra, Cherica, and Others.

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My 5th Contribution to the African American Lectionary: Domestic Violence & Black Twitter


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Here is a link to my past contributions to the African American Lectionary: Linked Here

I was asked to do a topic near and dear to my heart, but one that I also found very challenging, domestic violence. What does it mean to be a strong woman, and in particular, a strong black woman? A strong black man? Is a strong black person a rugged individual who goes out and achieves material success? Or is a strong black woman (and a strong black man) one who depends on the strength of the Lord to stand up for the victims of oppression in this life?

Without further ado, my fifth contribution to the African American Lectionary for Anti-Domestic Violence Day:

Anti-Domestic Violence Day 2012: Cultural Resources

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Thanks For Making The Line Clear Between Christianity And Whatever It Is That You Believe.

There have always been “those people” who seem to say outrageous things in the name of Christianity. Often, they are dismissed as crazy-people. Often, they are accepted as examples of what Christians really believe. It seems, though, that the advent of the internet and social media have brought a new level of force to both, and now these folks are being accepted as BOTH crazy-people AND examples of what Christians really believe. This is an attempt to gather all of the crazy together in one place, name it for what it is, and exorcise it (that is, distinguish it from Christianity: what Christ taught).

This is an always updating list, to please use the comments section to add your favorite new or old crazy-person-faux-faith quote.

Category: Sex and Christianity

Author: Douglas Wilson (Prominent “Reformed” Author and Professor)

“When we quarrel with the way the world is, we find that the world has ways of getting back at us. In other words, however we try, the sexual act cannot be made into an egalitarian pleasuring party. A man penetrates, conquers, colonizes, plants. A woman receives, surrenders, accepts. This is of course offensive to all egalitarians, and so our culture has rebelled against the concept of authority and submission in marriage. This means that we have sought to suppress the concepts of authority and submission as they relate to the marriage bed.”

Why its not Christianity: 1 Corinthians 7 speaks in no uncertain or ambiguous terms about mutual submission, not conquering or colonizing. Jesus brings equality, and pushes against patriarchy, even when it was practiced so staunchly by his own people. Taking a lesson from Jesus, Paul says, “In Christ, there is neither male nor female.” The scripture likes egalitarian stuff. And it is not against pleasure either. So sexually? Go ahead and have an egalitarian pleasure party in your marriage. It’s Biblical. 

Category: Violence and Christianity

Author: John Piper (Prominent Pastor and Loudest Voice for the New “Reformed” Movement)

“It’s right for God to slaughter women and children anytime he pleases. God gives life and he takes life. Everybody who dies, dies because God wills that they die. God is taking life every day. He will take 50,000 lives today. Life is in God’s hand. God decides when your last heartbeat will be, and whether it ends through cancer or a bullet wound. God governs.”

 Why it’s not Christianity: First off, you almost get the impression that he is trying to offend people here, which might not be too far from the truth. Second, God could certainly kill anyone who God desired to kill, but there is that pesky quote that says that God does not want ANYONE to perish (1 Peter 3:9). The fundamental misunderstanding here is a disconnect with the worldview of the Hebrew Bible and our modern worldview. In the Hebrew Bible, the worldview of the people was that God (or the gods) were responsible for EVERYTHING that happened, not just the good or right things. God didn’t tell them that the Divine was responsible if they won a war or lost one, they just assumed that if they won, it was because God was on their side. So you can see how that might have affected the way they wrote about their conquests. Jesus corrects this type of thinking in Luke 13, where he tells the community that God isn’t leveling out judgement because of sin or whatever, bad things just sometimes happen. Also, Christianity teaches that God is love and that we are all children of God. And most of us know intuitively that it isn’t very loving to kill your kids.

Author: George Zimmerman (Shooter of 17-year-old Trayvon Martin, and would-be NRA hero) (update 7/19/12)

In response to shooting the unarmed teenager after following him without reason, Zimmerman stated, “I feel that it was all God’s plan.”

Why it’s not Christianity: Jesus said, “Love your enemies. Pray for those who curse you.” We might add that we have found it hard to love and shoot to kill at the same time. God’s will? We think not. Racism and overzealous gun behavior? Yes.